Characteristics of an Alpha Male

Thomas Allan
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Characteristics of an Alpha MaleMany guys want to be the top dog, the so called leader of a group – an alpha male. But, in any given group there can be only one alpha male.

Let’s go over the characteristics that most alphas have in common:


Body Language

Most guys that are leaders of a group use their body with ease. They are not afraid to take up space, their movements are natural and unstilted and their pose is natural and relaxed.

They also use their body wisely as they are aware that when they turn their body towards someone, they are giving that person attention, and vice versa. They only give attention to people that they respect.

Voice Tone

70% of what is said in a conversation is conveyed not with words, but with body language. A third of that at least is your voice tone.

That means that the words that you say accounts for only 30% of the message and impression people have of what you said.

Voice tone is very important. We can differentiate a questioning type of voice tone, also associated with beta status, a neutral one, and a commanding, short pitched voice tone.

Alphas usually use either neutral or commanding voice tone.

Be Confident

No man can be a true leader of a pack without confidence with women, or in general. If he does not believe in himself or his abilities, he will cower away from a challenge and will likely lose his spot as an alpha male.

Yes, confidence is truly important, it is also very hard to acquire for those that don’t have it. That is why people value it so much.

But, the catch is that the most confident person, the one that believes most in what he says, is often wrong. Alpha guys are not always right looking from the outside, and maybe even from the inside of the group, but no one dares stand up to them and their opinion is taken as the truth for granted.

Be Humorous

Although not all alpha males are funny or blessed with good humor, people laugh at what they say because of who they are.

Remember in all the movies when people suck up to their bosses by faking laughter? Well, that is what we do all the time; we fake our laughter and show our best selves in the presence of a top dog.

They are Actual Leaders

Most alpha males are actual leaders. That means that they take care of their pack. When someone has a problem, they help them out.

Alphas who don’t care for people around them are often left with no following and are no longer alphas.

Being an alpha may not be as easy as it seems. Many people believe they want it in their minds, but in their hearts are content at the position they are now.

So, think about it. Do you really want to be the alpha male and have all the responsibility that comes with it?

In either case, now you know what characteristics all the alpha males share, and you can start emulating them if you want to be just like them, or better!


  1. Looks like I have all these characteristics :D Am I Alpha?? :D
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  2. Ilan Cohen says:

    Your article made me laugh! Yes, it’s a hard job to be the alpha-male! :)

  3. Hey Thomas,
    nice post and Thanks for sharing this post with us. I like all the points you mentioned and Yes, body language, tone and confidence is the most important thing for an alpha male. I learned lots pf good things from this post.
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  4. Ya Alpha male are catch every ones attention even from hundreds meter far. Nice characterization of alpha male. And nice writing style.
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  5. As with many situations, there are “controls” that can either make or break an intended outcome. Some alpha males are as you describe, but they never learned how to temper their alpha-ness. They have a commanding demeanor, but don’t question their thoughts or actions because you will receive in return the full wrath of their underlying true lack of social graces and inability to control their temper when someone questions their intelligence. Some alphas are bullies because they’ve never known any other way to be.
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  6. Wow. I could never think of reading an article like this, much less write one =D Definitely enjoyed it!
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  7. Just remember.. There is a huge difference with an actual alpha male and a douche bag.
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  8. very true…
    it is not always just dominating the group but being humorous and gentle at the required times is also mandatory. You could not behave rudely to your fellow beings all the times.
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  9. Those for sure are qualities of a good leader. Especially you talked about being humorous. This is the key thing.

  10. In my experience, most Alpha Males aren’t leaders at all but more like immature little boys who really lack a level of confidence they can only get from hero worship.
    Maybe I haven’t seen enough Alpha Males in my 54 years? :)
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    • Maybe they are all guys pretending to be alpha males then? There is definitely an alpha male and female in most human groups, just as there is in the wild. Other people can be right sometimes – I’m not sure why you have to disagree with almost everything anyone ever says?
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      • Not sure why you interpret my expressing my own view and opinion as disagreeing with everything, Kari. That’s your opinion, I guess.
        I didn’t say there were no Alpha Males but expressed a different opinion on their leadership qualities.
        Commenting and engagement is a two way expression on a blog, not just agreeing with any and everything posted. I prefer to be honest and say what I think and believe and more than happy to engage on that – sorry you don’t see that.
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  11. Love the wrestling pic since I am a big wrestling fan. I read this in a Stone Cold Steve Austin tone because this article definitely sounds like something he would say in a promo if he had to do one on this subject. lol!
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  12. Just lacking by a few things to become an alpha man ! wanna be one and will be one soon !
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  13. Being an alpha male takes time and patience to perfect. Another way a man can become an alpha male is by learning an art like salsa dancing. Then when he becomes an intermediate dancer, he will be surprised how ladies will fight for him :)
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  14. So, if people are laughing at you when you have not said something funny, then you may be an alpha male, but you may also be a jerk! I think an alpha male that has confidence, but is not cocky, is definitely a guy that gets the right kind of attention from both women and men.
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  15. The most important part of being an alpha male is that you shouldnt be an arrogant jerk. Most guys wrongly believe that being an alpha male is being arrogant. You can be the most dominating alpha male by being really humble.
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  16. I’m the man! :D Most of so called alpha male are arrogant. Few of them really deserve respect.

    Best regards from I. C. Daniel
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  17. Hi Thomas – as a new reader of your blog I though I’d just jump in and leave a quick comment here to say I’ve been enjoying it a whole lot. Cheers! Shaun
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  18. I think an alpha male is one who takes full responsibility of his own actions. :)
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  19. An alpha male is a leader of women AS WELL as men. They attract everyone with their high confidence and their appealing qualities such as leadership and the ability to develop rapport.

  20. haha..Good read. Humorous tone in your post force me to read it till the end, I can say my husband is an Alpha male :)
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  21. I have to admit I’m naturally attracted to Alpha males. It’s an innate biological thing. True alphas have an abundant amounts of quite confidence, a small amount of arrogance which is rather sexy but above of all respect from both sexes due to their sincerity, genuineness and leadership qualities. I don’t believe it can be faked. I should know I’m with one.
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  22. haha nice article, it made me smile a lot!
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  23. This is a very interesting article. Thank you for sharing this. I think you are correct on most points and you seem to know what you are talking about. I am a little curious though, do you have a source on your statement that 70% in communication comes from body language? I can tell you that this is a common missunderstanding and comes from an experiment on Irony, made ba Albert Mehrabian in the 60´s. The experiment was meant to test how well people understand irony and in what way they understood it, if it was by body language, tone of voice or words. What the experiment showed was that 7 % understood irony by the words that were spoken, 38 % understood the irony by the tone of voice, and 55 % understood the irony by the body language. You can search for “the 7, 38, 55 myth” if you want to check it out..

    But other than that i think you nailed it =) Thanks for a wonderful post

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