Whether it is a new year, a new month, a new week, or a new day, building and engaging in healthy habits is important. This is true in all areas of your life, including your relationships.
In fact, relationships are built upon habits. You either have positive or negative habits, and you either have a positive or negative relationship because of those habits.
For example, if you are in the habit of coming home and watching TV instead of talking to your partner about their day, then that contributes in some way to your relationship. Depending on your partner, it may contribute in a good way or a bad way, but it does contribute.
The bottom line is that everything you do in your relationship affects your relationship; and when you understand that, you can start to have a healthier relationship.
Note: Are you single? Read why you should develop healthy habits to attract and keep women.
There Is No One ‘Right’ Way To Have A Healthy Relationship
Having a healthy relationship is different for everyone, because everyone has different values, beliefs, and traits that make them unique. Some people will be happy in a long distance relationship while others enjoy being together 24 hours a day.
The one thing that every relationship does have in common, though, is – that’s right, habits.
There Will Still Be Issues That Arise But…
Just because you develop positive habits, it doesn’t mean that you are not going to fight, go against one of the habits one day, or have other issues in the relationship.
It does, however, mean that the majority of your relationship will be based around good solid behavior that ensures there are many more positive days than negative days in your relationship.
Building healthy habits can:
- Prevent fights
- Prevent emotional scarring such as hurt, anger, or resentment
- Prevent breakup/divorce
- Make life easier
- Reduce worry
How To Build Healthy Habits In Your Relationship
The hard part about building habits is that it takes work and consistency. You can’t just say you are going to do something, do it one day, and then say “There! I have contributed to the relationship in a positive way.” When it comes to habits, it is all or nothing.
What you repeatedly do becomes who you are, which means that you have to repeatedly do healthy things in your relationship to make your relationship healthy.
Think Tiny At First
It can be hard to develop healthy relationship habits at first. For instance, trying to communicate with your partner when you have never done it before can be hard to implement and stick to.
I found the following slide about building new habits, and I really like the concept. Take a peek and see what you think about this ‘tiny’ way of building new behaviors.
Areas Of Your Relationship To Develop New Habits
There are many different areas of your relationship that can benefit from new habits. To talk about all the habits would require a book, but knowing where you need to develop good habits can help you go out and find the specific habits you want (and need) to develop.
Following are some areas where habits will benefit your relationship and an example of one habit you may want to develop for each area.
- Your sex life: Doing something intimate everyday
- Relationship values: Making your partner number one in your life
- Respect: Allowing your partner to be their individual self
- Emotional intimacy: Saying I love you everyday
- Connection: Eating meals together everyday
Obviously there is much more to a relationship and many more habits you can develop. But the point is that you are going to be building habits regardless, so if you care about your partner and your happiness, you might as well make them good habits that contribute to your relationship positively.