Building Healthy Habits: The Only Way To Build A Healthy Relationship

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healthy habits in relationship

Whether it is a new year, a new month, a new week, or a new day, building and engaging in healthy habits is important. This is true in all areas of your life, including your relationships.

In fact, relationships are built upon habits. You either have positive or negative habits, and you either have a positive or negative relationship because of those habits.

For example, if you are in the habit of coming home and watching TV instead of talking to your partner about their day, then that contributes in some way to your relationship. Depending on your partner, it may contribute in a good way or a bad way, but it does contribute.

The bottom line is that everything you do in your relationship affects your relationship; and when you understand that, you can start to have a healthier relationship.

Note: Are you single? Read why you should develop healthy habits to attract and keep women.

There Is No One ‘Right’ Way To Have A Healthy Relationship

Having a healthy relationship is different for everyone, because everyone has different values, beliefs, and traits that make them unique. Some people will be happy in a long distance relationship while others enjoy being together 24 hours a day.

The one thing that every relationship does have in common, though, is – that’s right, habits.

There Will Still Be Issues That Arise But…

Just because you develop positive habits, it doesn’t mean that you are not going to fight, go against one of the habits one day, or have other issues in the relationship.

It does, however, mean that the majority of your relationship will be based around good solid behavior that ensures there are many more positive days than negative days in your relationship.

Building healthy habits can:

  • Prevent fights
  • Prevent emotional scarring such as hurt, anger, or resentment
  • Prevent breakup/divorce
  • Make life easier
  • Reduce
  • Reduce worry

How To Build Healthy Habits In Your Relationship

The hard part about building habits is that it takes work and consistency. You can’t just say you are going to do something, do it one day, and then say “There! I have contributed to the relationship in a positive way.” When it comes to habits, it is all or nothing.

What you repeatedly do becomes who you are, which means that you have to repeatedly do healthy things in your relationship to make your relationship healthy.

Think Tiny At First

It can be hard to develop healthy relationship habits at first. For instance, trying to communicate with your partner when you have never done it before can be hard to implement and stick to.

I found the following slide about building new habits, and I really like the concept. Take a peek and see what you think about this ‘tiny’ way of building new behaviors.

Areas Of Your Relationship To Develop New Habits

There are many different areas of your relationship that can benefit from new habits. To talk about all the habits would require a book, but knowing where you need to develop good habits can help you go out and find the specific habits you want (and need) to develop.

Following are some areas where habits will benefit your relationship and an example of one habit you may want to develop for each area.

  • Your sex life: Doing something intimate everyday
  • Relationship values: Making your partner number one in your life
  • Respect: Allowing your partner to be their individual self
  • Emotional intimacy: Saying I love you everyday
  • Connection: Eating meals together everyday

Obviously there is much more to a relationship and many more habits you can develop. But the point is that you are going to be building habits regardless, so if you care about your partner and your happiness, you might as well make them good habits that contribute to your relationship positively.


  1. Edward Chung says:

    thank you very much for your suggestions on developing relationship through building healthy habits. I especially like emotional intimacy and connections. A great read!

  2. Twitter:
    Hi Bellaisa,

    I really enjoyed this article on healthy relationship. I agree with you the irrelevant disputes, anger and misunderstanding are the biggest enemy of a relationship. So we must try to prevent our relationship from these kind of issues.

    Anyway thanks for such a lovely article.
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  3. Adithya Shetty says:

    Thanks for the awesome article. This includes all the tips related to how to maintain a Good Relation Ship.

    Thanks ;)


    thanks for this article. this article rely helpful for making and maintaining good relationship.
    but there is a bad habit of my girlfriend that she got angry on me can you help me that she doesn’t got angry on me.
    thanks :)

    • Twitter:
      The only person who can stop her from getting angry is herself. And she is likely angry at you because you are doing something wrong.

      Maybe you are not connecting with her the way she would like to be connected with.

      Maybe you are not giving her the pleasure that she seeks.

      Maybe you are treating her poorly.

      Maybe she just has mental issues and you are not the problem at all.

      I have no idea why your girlfriend is angry with you. You have to sit down and communicate with her to find out why and then actively find a solution the problem that she is having. That is the ONLY way to fix the issue.
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  5. Healthy life is the best gift of nature to anyone. So take good care of yourself and your loved ones.

  6. Twitter:
    Great article :)
    Te only thing that i have learned from relationships is that you have to let go of the ego and start to cooperate with each other.Thanks for the healthy tips.
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  7. From my personal experience, communication is between the partners is very important. The difference in habbits are quite significant whenever the partners nationality is different. One must learn to adapt, listen, learn, re-learn to have a healthy relationship. A balance between what one likes and what his/her partner likes.
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  8. Sometimes this is not enough.. Me and my ex husband just became friends after a while.
    And we really involved on each others lifes and we tried to be lovers for a long time but just did not work.

  9. Twitter:
    Compromise & knowing each other will be helpful for longer relationship. :)
    Thanks for your post.
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  10. Twitter:
    Hello Bellaisa,

    While I agree with all the other tips you mentioned, I do not buy in on being intimate everyday! When you subscribe to such a pattern, it literally burns you out fast and your spouse, whom you once worshipped, becomes just ‘Peter’ or ‘Juliet’!

    What I advise? Connect with their soul and instead, have what I refer to as ‘soul intimacy’ – the physical should be used just as a reminder that you are all for them – body and soul!

    Great points otherwise!

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    • Twitter:
      Physical intimacy is about much more than sex. Sex life is about more than just sex.

      Physical intimacy is about cuddling, hugging, holding hands, and kissing. It is about connecting on a physical level. Doing it every day keeps that connection, that intimate connection, alive.

      Besides, there are many couples who have sex every single day and can’t get enough of each other while there are many couples who give each other space and start to avoid sex altogether. That lack of sexual intimacy doesn’t create a stronger need or keep the worship alive. I would rather worship my man every day than once in a while.

      But, if you choose to not be intimate every day, that may work very well for you. Everyone is different.
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  11. This post is really informative and helps many of us to know how to build a good relationship and keep the same for long.

  12. Twitter:
    hi Bellaisa,
    Great tips indeed.Building healthy habits is great way to improve relationship.And most important is mutual understanding help lot in relationship. thank you for sharing.
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  13. hiii bellaisa
    after a long time i read a wonderful post on relationship nice tips u mentioned here for building healthy relationship thnx one again will share it too.
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  14. Great post on building healthy habits in a relationship. We often read or hear too much about breaking bad habits and this article was a refreshing read. Thanks!
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  15. Hi Bellasia,

    Recently i had a argument with a close friend which was on no basis. We didn’t talked for days, so finally i thought to break this thing as it was not making sense and was affecting out friendship. So, i said sorry and she does the same. Matter solved in seconds. Your article remind me of that incident as to build a healthy relationship.
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  16. Twitter:
    Hi Bellaisa,

    A very helpful article for couples, I think in todays fast paced life we don’t give proper attention to our relationships. This is what affect a relationship badly, whatever is your profession you must work hard or adjust your lifestyle so that you can spend quality time with your partner. This is what always keep your relationship healthy.
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  17. Twitter:
    From my experience some of the most important things, for me, in a relationship are humor, trust and living by the same morals.
    we live by our morals and we are still as in love today as when i first danced into her life ;)
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  18. I actually grew up in a not-so-happy home. That is why, now that I have a family of my own, my partner and I try our very best to create a happy and healthy relationship at home. We try to spend quality time with our kids as much as we can, even just a good movie bonding at home.
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  19. Twitter:
    hi Bellaisa,

    Great post and i think am agree but in certain part i feel that i am against with you. Like when you say that spending time with your partner makes your relationship healthy then i am agree with you but when you say relationship is depends upon habbit.
    I think habbit and behaviour creates an identity that is what we are . Here i am not talking about good or bad. So why should i change my habbit if it is not creating trouble for me or my partner ?
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    • Twitter:
      If you have good habits in the relationship, then you don’t need to change them. But believe me, whether you know it or not, you have developed habits in your relationships that affect their happiness. Therefore, the health of your relationship is dependent upon your habits.

      Habit and behavior also creates an identity for your relationship. If you are in the habit of yelling at your partner, then you are creating an unhealthy relationship. If you are in the habit of listening to your partner when she/he wants to talk, then you are creating a healthier relationship.

      The point is to find the habits that are not working for you in the relationship and replace them with healthier ones.
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  20. Twitter:
    Going in a relationship is though very easy but making it healthy and continuing is a very hard work but if you have done it then you gonna be living very happy for your whole life.
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  21. Antoinette says:

    Issues are there always. This where you measure love and the strength that binds the two of you! It is where and how you’ll stand. And it is where you’ll know who your partner is!

  22. Very good article, indeed. I can’t say my relationship with my girlfriend is very healthy, we have our moments but overall we keep the good habits and that helps us to pass over any serious issues

  23. Twitter:
    Thanks for the helpful article. This includes all the tips related to how to maintain a Good Relationship.
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  24. Twitter:
    Healthy habits directly contribute towards healthy relationships and there is no doubt in that. However it is also important to care for each other. The more you care the deeper you will go in your relationship.
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  25. Twitter:
    Hello; I thought this was a solid post. I would have liked to hear mor about how to build the good habits or how to reenforce them once you decide what habits you want to add or what behaviors you want to improve on. during the work leading up to having gastric surgery our coaches taught us to make small changes one at a time until we would see major improvements in our overall life style. they advised one small change each month adding another one every three or four weeks. i started with no caffeine. that one was really hard. so, i guess I will have to take a similar approach to becoming a more attractive erson in th area of behavior. Thanks for the post and take care, max
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  26. Twitter:
    One of the first stumbling blocks for many people is discovering what the bad habits are, in the first place. Having solid and trusting talks with your partner is usually your first thing to do to find out what might tick them off.
    And remember, as Bellaisa said, take tiny steps to start. Rome wasn’t built in a day and a new habit takes at least 2 weeks of continuous effort to form. If it’s worth doing, it’s worth doing the right way.
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  27. Uhm, well yeah. Healthy habits are really necessary for a healthy relationship. Partners should really understand each other and the feelings.
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    • Twitter:
      Not sure if that is sarcasm in the first sentence? ;) The truth is that many people don’t realize that their habits are running their relationship, life, career, productivity, happiness, etc. I know that I was ignorant to it for a long time. I thought that what I did was out of my control, but once I realized that there are bad habits and positive habits, and I have the choice to drop unhealthy habits and replace them with healthier ones – all bets were off.
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  28. Twitter:
    I personally think that the reason why I am with my girlfriend for so long is because we actually argue a lot. I mean seriously we always have different opinions on most matters. Yet we have a really good relationship!
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  29. Twitter:
    Most relationship break ups are caused by bad habits. One needs to learn and maintain good habits that will enhance their relationship. Building a healthy Habit isn’t done overnight rather is a gradual process that requires patience and determination.
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  30. I agree that new habits can only be formed with small habits that are done everyday. In order to make new habits, we must at least consistently form the new habits within at least 21 days, then our unconscious mind will accept those as our new habits.

    • Twitter:
      Hi carol, thanks for commenting.

      I actually read an article the other day that was interesting. It said that researchers have found that for some habits, it only takes a few weeks to develop while for other habits, it can take longer than five months! In fact, the average was about three months. It depends on many different things.

      I have been trying for months to get into the habit of reading everyday, but I still haven’t made the time to do that habit every day. It is such a simple thing, but I have been excusing it and letting it stand behind other things that I consider ‘more important’, even though I know it will benefit me.
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  31. Twitter:
    Many people claim that their breakup caught them by surprise. Often that is because we don’t realize how we are treating a partner and those negative habits become part of who we are. Take care those bad habits, that we all have, don’t cause the one you love to wander to greener grass.

  32. Habits either good or bad that have been developed for some time are quite hard to break. But this does not state that you can’t change them. Influence from your surroundings is a great factor in molding these habits.
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  33. Twitter:
    Great post…To build healthy relationships we must follow the rule of give and take. It works the best and helps you build the healthy relationships. If you both are happy then your relationship will be happy
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  34. Being genuine with your relationship with the readers is very important. I believe that what makes a blog successful is that you have passion in what you do and you are dedicated with it. And the readers will feel that.
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  35. Muhammad Irfan says:

    thanks for this kind articles good ways to make good realtion ship thanks again for sharing this kind articles

  36. Emil Isanov says:

    Long distance relationships are definitely the hardest. I went through one for a couple of months and it did not work out .

  37. A healthy happy relationship plays a large part in a person’s happiness. Habits make it happen and the rewards are great. From time to time problems may arise, like bad health. A healthy relationship give you the strength to overcome these obstacles. Great post. We all need a reminder.

  38. Twitter:
    Yes of course,Health is very important to live long relationship with loved one…It really wonderful article and gives such a new ideas to everyone should follow in their life…Keep sharing!!!

  39. Twitter:
    Habits do have a direct effect on a relationship. The watching TV example is very true especially when the couple is staying together. While staying with a partner, one must respect the other person’s presence and dedicate quality time with them. Of course there is no right way on certain habits, while there are things one could do to improve the bond in the relationship. It has to be done on a day to day basis. Some of the thinks I can think of is cleaning the house, watching movies together or sometimes even having casual chats.
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  40. Twitter:
    I Really enjoy your article by bring Relationship into health..
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  41. Twitter:
    Communicating with your partner is the probably the most important habit that should be developed. After you are able to communicate well then you can work together to determine which habits are best for your relationship. Without communication, though you can’t do it because one person may see a habit as positive while another sees it as negative.
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