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Thinking About Making a Love Potion to Help You Find Love?
Ready To Find Love?
Looking for love? If you are then you will be using different strategies to find love like online dating, scoping out the work crowd, checking out friends of friends on facebook, and hanging out at coffee shops to spot that one guy or girl that seems to be exactly what you are looking for. These are all valid ways to find love – but there are other things that you may be trying that could be hurting your chances of finding love.
You may think some of the following ‘find love tactics’ are silly, and you may be right, but that doesn’t mean that they are not popular! There are tons of websites and forums devoted to 3 of them and the last one is so common that I hear about it many times a day. In fact, I’ve tried a few of them myself in my past.
Wishing to Find Love
The law of attraction has become really popular lately. I am a believer in the law of attraction myself, but if you are just sitting around making vision boards and wishing for the love of your life to appear in your lap, then you are going to be sitting around and wishing for a long time!
The law of attraction involves you taking action towards finding your love, not just sitting around and waiting for it. This is why you commonly hear that the universe will supply you with clues or directions to take in order to reach your desires. It shows you the steps you need to take in order to get to where you want. So instead of sitting on your couch staring at your vision board, get out and look for the breadcrumbs from the universe that will lead you to find love.
Advertising For Love on Craigslist or Any Other Classifieds
Yes it’s free, and that may be appealing to a lot of people (all kinds of people), but seriously – advertising on Craigslist is worse than going to a really bad bar. At least at the bar you can see the people you are taking a chance on. On craigslist you have to correspond with someone based off their words. This means that when you see them (or they see you) one of you may be extremely disappointed and let down, and that could lower the other one’s self-esteem. So not only did you waste a whole bunch of time, but now you feel like crap!
Instead spend the money to try online dating. You can see pictures of people before you have to talk to them. You can find out more than just there little blurb that they decide to share. You can chat online, or on video chat, in a safe environment to really get to know the person before meeting them. Also, online dating requires you to fill in a lot of vital information about yourself that will help others decide whether you are really right for them or not.
And most importantly, you know that everyone on an online dating site is serious about finding love, and that they willing to pay for a service to help them instead of being cheap and advertising themselves alongside furniture. It’s a lot less time wasted and it’s worth the money you pay.
Buying or Making a Love Potion
Wouldn’t it be great if we could just sit around and make potions to get the things we want? Many people are buying into the belief that it works. I saw one love potion that required you to brew the tea on a Friday evening during a full moon and then recite a rhyme that went something like:
By the light of the moon, I brew this tea, to make (the person) fall in love with me!
There’s more to it than that in the chant, but then they tell you that on the following Friday to give the potion to the one you want to love you and they will soon fall in love with you!
Really? I have not seen one case of this working – besides on the movie ‘The Craft. The potion is not what is going to make someone fall in love you with. It’s rather a waste of time don’t you think? It may be fun to do but there are better things you can do with your time to find love than chanting and making tea.
Someone will fall in love with you because of your kindness, compassion, sense of humor or similarity to them. So get out there and show the world your good traits and see what kind of magic you can do with that effort!
Staying Inside Your Comfort Zone
This is probably the worst way to find love. How can you find love when you are stuck doing the same old thing and seeing the same old people? You are never going to meet someone new unless you push your boundaries and experience new things and people.
The more chances you take at finding love the more likely you are to find love soon. Go to the speed dating event in your city. Get online and surf for free on online dating sites. Make your presence known when that hot guy or girl enters the room. Go ahead and break out of your shell and let finding love be a real option for you!
Please feel free to share your tips on how to find love (what works or what doesn’t) in the comments below!
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So true, some are just common sense but it’s very easy to forget everything when you are looking to find someone and people can also pick up on these signs of desparation!
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That’s so true Louis. It’s easy to fall into the trap of wanting someone so bad that you just go ahead and get on Craigslist or take other risks that have the potential for disaster.
Can you imagine someone giving you a drink and finding out it was a ‘love potion’ they concocted? Yes, I would think they were desperate and be running the other direction.
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I love your section about “Craigslist”, I have a hard-time just placing an ad there for my landscape company. Looking for love on CL could actually be dangerous, thank goodness I am happily married!
You make some great points but “push your boundaries” stands out the most to me. Expecting different results doing the same thing could possibly drive you crazy.
I love ComLuv as it is a great change of pace allowing different articles. Great write here and perspective of Love! Wish I could give some real feed back to the online dating thing.
Thank you Bellaisa!
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Hey Bryan,
I’ve learned the hard way that the only way to achieve anything worthwhile, even finding someone to love, is by getting out of your comfort zone.
Lol about your ad on Craigslist. People do crazy things when they become desperate to find love – but a classified site? It’s just too risky of a place to me.
Thanks for the comment
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Great article Bellaisa! I liked that you combined intense tone with humorous parts. Totally agree with the ”meet new people, experience new things”. In my opinion, the perfect time to find love is when you don’t desperately need it. Just to be confident and in good mood, is enough to meet new friends, and whatever comes later. There is a good chance to find love, and if you don’t this time you will have a good friend after all to talk to!
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You are totally right! When you are desperate for love, or anything, you just won’t get it. But it can be hard not to become desperate when you can’t find it! It’s like a vicious circle!
I know as soon as I let go of the desperation and just enjoyed myself and my single-hood is when I found the perfect guy for me, who is now my husband by the way.
Thanks for commenting!
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I agree! The key is not to be desperate!
Before my husband and I committed to each other, we used to be friends! We had common interests like sports, music etc. If you are attracted by him to, is the best you can have!
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Interesting. First and foremost, would YOU date YOU? Meaning, do you believe in your own capacity to love, and are you confident in yourself? If you are not even contented with who you are, who else would be, right? So make sure, you’re not looking for love just to fill in the loneliness of being single, or like you said, just because you’re desperate. This will practically drive people away. So in the end, you have to feel good about yourself, and that will definitely radiate from the inside, out making you one irresistible catch. Again, you have to DO something to find love, the Law of attraction bit was funny.
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Very well said Hannah. So many people think that finding love will make them happy, but if you are not already happy then that’s not the case at all. Nobody wants to, or should have to, put in the enormous amount of effort to make you a happier person – and it never works out anywase. You will be with YOU forever – so make sure your relationship with yourself is solid and happy first before getting into a relationship with someone else.
Thanks for the comment – and yes, you can’t just stare at your vision board or pray really super hard, you do have to DO something
Bellaisa recently posted..Date Ideas: Ours Was a Fondue Date
Couldn’t agree with this post anymore. We can wish to get a car, when we do not commit effort to reap the results from it. It a shame how most of us are so conditioned to be lazy and getting things the easy.
Remember we reap what we sow, so put forth the necessary effort to getting out their and meeting new people. It may take a toll on your confidence but as you develop more self love, it is more likely for people to be naturally draw to you.
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Hey Barnett, thanks for stopping by here and commenting.
I think the more you get rejected and the more you keep trying, the higher your self confidence actually goes – because you learn what works and what doesn’t and you start to realize that you really are the master of your own fate. I think that’s a good confidence booster! And people see that in you, and like you said, are drawn to you.
I don’t speak very well English but I really enjoyed this post.
But have you find the love potion ? Google can’t help me to find the righ address !
LOL
Thank you for this post.
Amin
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Hey Amin,
There are tons of love potions out there for you to find! Lol I see them all the time!
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I also talk about finding love on one of my sites. It can be complicated, and making a love potion is funnily enough, not the way to go
Getting out of your comfort zone to find what you need is a good idea.
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Lol. I think that younger people tend to take it more seriously – and then desperate people fall not far behind. I know I’ve been both at one time or another…and I’ve made the mistake of falling for some ‘too easy’ trick that is guaranteed to work!
Lol. I think that younger people tend to take it more seriously – and then desperate people fall not far behind. I know I’ve been both at one time or another…and I’ve made the mistake of falling for some ‘too easy’ trick that is guaranteed to work!
I really need this lesson. spirit, wish me luck!!!
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Good luck!
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Posting for love on Craigslist/GumTree or any other online forum is really a bad idea. Getting out of one’s comfort zone is never easy. To find someone one must always get outside their comfort zone. I have tried speed dating a couple of times and it is a nice way to meeting new people. Offlate, I don’t have a problem talking to strangers on the bus/train/plane.
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GumTree? Never heard of that. I’m going to have to check it out. But classifieds is a bad way to find love – period. Taking chances and getting out of the comfort zone is what it’s all about.
Bellaisa recently posted..4 Date Ideas to Keep You Warm
I totally agree on taking chances. Gumtree is free classifieds that which is quite popular in Australia/NZ. I noticed that they also have a UK website too.
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Hi Bellaisa, believe it or not, I actually found my love on MySpace back when it was still popular before Facebook took over. We have been married for over 3 years now and still going strong.
Every day is new and interesting. We face life’s challenges together. Love is worth finding and worth the search!
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I used to have a friend who spent a lot of time on there. Pretty much everyone in her life (besides me) was from there. So I can believe it. I find it cool that you found love there.
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Yes, I am very glad that it worked out. Finding the right person isn’t necessarily easy. Some get it right early and some take longer. It’s interesting to say the least.
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Hey David,
Love can be lurking around any corner, even on MySpace. Gee, I found my wife on Facebook so wonderful your friend found it wherever that might be.
I found the post funny as a lot did. Yeah, I would be cool if you could get out the magic wand and a puff of smoke later, your new special partner appears. But there’s no easy way. There isn’t even a right way.
You just have to want it, know you want it and get out into the real world and find it, armed with your own knowledge of what it looks like (for you).
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it is difficult to find love these days, and worse with this list
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Hello Bellaisa,
I like your phrase “push the boundaries”. “A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step”
Confucius said.
The other point is that, sometimes, when we try to find love, we are kind of “blind”.Can’t see clear and compromise with something out of our real standards. He is not supposed to change for us. We must love him the way he is.
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Love that. We have to love the person we love for the person they are. They can’t be anyone different!
Bellaisa recently posted..4 Date Ideas to Keep You Warm
had to laugh when i saw this topic then comments with “craigslist”
haha
well i think the love potion idea is silly, but its all about right place right time i think
if its meant to happen, then its meant to be huh
thanks heaps
james
I like they last method listed here. I’ll apply it and build my network. Its one of the best love making tips I’ve found so far on the internet. I do feel getting out of the comfort zone is an important thing for bloggers.
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Not sure if you actually read the article – your sending mixed signals. Do you think this article was about love making tips or building your network? Or maybe about bloggers? Cause it’s about none of those things. It’s about finding love.
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I think no one can suggest correctly on this because to suggest this kind of things you need to understand “girls” which is again one of the most impossible thing in the world..!! BTW Thanks for these tips..!!
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Girls are not that hard to understand if you put some effort in and take the time to do it. There’s lot’s of literature out there that can help you out!
:)
Thanks for the comment Saket!
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I need… I need.. I need girl friend… thanks for this great post… I will learned this turtorial
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Think you missed the point. Lol
Bellaisa recently posted..How to Find Love After 30
Believing in love, knowing what it is and how to recognize true love are all quite important. The other thing you need in some circumstances is time.
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That’s true. You can’t rush it – that’s when you become desperate or panicked!
Bellaisa recently posted..How to Find Love After 30
I think that it’s when you stop obsessing about it and relax, is when the magic happens (no potion required)
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That’s the truth! But it’s so hard to stop obsessing and relax when you are looking for love and not finding it…unless you are in the right mindset.
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Love is something we just find naturally with the help of a small thing – heart! That’s all the post is about right?
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Nope. This post was about bad ways to find love.
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Guys, go take an evening walk at the beach! Who knows, you might just find your soul mate
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I have not had any real success with online dating website. I must probably get my photo taken from a professional photographer to get replies to message I sent out. Although, finding love online may seem easier, I have always believe that the chances of finding love is higher when meeting someone face to face. Taking part is community/hobby group activities can be a good start to find someone or even solo traveling for that matter.
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I do think though that vision boards do help you on the path to find the person you are looking for. Your RAS (reticular activating system) the bit that works constantly in the background helps gear you to find what you are looking for – even when you are not actively searching! But you have to help your RAS though and get physically out into the dating world. So, creating your vision board and getting out there will help you!
I completely agree with the part about breaking out or the comfort zone. If you never become brave enough to talk to random people and meet new people then you will never have the chance for true love. thanks for the good post! looking forward to more to come.
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Good points. I think breaking out of your comfort one and being open to the universe and open to love is the greatest chance we have. Your description of waiting on the couch for the law of attraction to bring someone to your door, is a humorous example of a mistake some make.
It’s also important to surrender your control over how you receive love, and be open to it coming in a form you don’t expect
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Kari, this post made me ell-oh-ell. For the longest time I seriously had a hard time believing that people actually looked for love on Craigslist, but sure enough, it exists. I still refuse to believe that people actually try “love potions”. But I guess I just have a bit more hope for the human race than most.
The last paragraph is by far the best. If you are dissatisfied with your life, then the worst thing you could do is to continue doing what you are doing, hoping it will change on its own. It rarely does. Seeking out the unfamiliar and pushing yourself out of your comfort zone is by far the best way to gain new experiences, meet new people, and get to know yourself a bit more.
Great post!
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Again, sorry I missed this comment Evo. And I agree with you. There is nothing like experiencing new things to make you a better person, and I feel bad for people who never even try.
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exactly right people keep continue such mistakes and blame that they have no real love …..i will share it with my few friends who always complain these.hope after this they would not complain to me.
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Please do share Rohan! Let’s hope it helps them find love!
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hi kari,being obsessive is also a bad way to find love just like my boyfriend did for me and i will say truth for the first time it impressed me and today we are in relation.
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I am not surprised Nikita. Sometimes the worst ways can attract some kind of people…it is not uncommon.
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