Are You A Greedy Blogger And Take More Than You Give?

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Do You Give As Much As You Take In Blogging

A lot of bloggers understand that blogging is about giving AND receiving. The blog you create should be created to help other people solve a problem in their lives, and the content you create should be valuable.

But many bloggers would rather receive than give; and that is where bloggers go all wrong. There are many different ways that I see this every day. If you don’t agree, please tell me in the comments, but I’m pretty sure that if you are a respectful blogger who tries to give as much as you take, you will agree with the points I make.

Do You Try To Make Money Or Offer Value To Your Readers?

One of the things that makes me lose interest in a blogger is when they recommend things that have nothing to do with their business. As a reader, I want to know that they are trying to make my life better (even with the sale of products), not that they are only trying to make money on the latest and greatest product.

In addition, when I receive more articles, information, and value than I do sales pitches, I respond better to their sales pitches and end up buying what they are selling.

It is just human nature to like people who are trying to help you and to be distrustful of people who take more than they give.

Do You Participate In Posts By Fellow Bloggers?

A lot of people leave comment spam where they try to put a link into the comment. Blogging ethics have taught us that this is really inappropriate. But there is another form of comment spam that is really annoying – at least to me.

I recently wrote about a guest post on this

site about how many attractive qualities bloggers have. One thing I talked about was bloggers giving positive feedback, but I didn’t clarify that the feedback should be on point and relevant to the blog post in order to be attractive to other people.

It’s interesting how many people leave a comment without any grasp about what the post was. Many people want to leave a comment and get a backlink, and so they are quick to scan the headlines and leave a comment that they think is appropriate to leave. And some take it even further and only read the first paragraph and comment on that point generically to sound like they read the whole post.

This happens all the time. Almost every blog post I have seen has at least one comment that has nothing to do with the post. I’m willing to bet it will happen here. In fact, if you actually read this whole post, then you should see this paragraph. If you choose to leave a comment on this blog post, please sign your name after you leave the comment so that we can tell if you actually read it or not.

The point is that most people will not read the middle of the post and, instead, try to deduce what is being said from the headlines and beginning. They miss out on valuable information in the middle because they don’t really care. I don’t know about you, but I don’t leave a comment on a blog post that I don’t care about. In fact, I don’t read it in the first place.

Blogging Ethics Are Important

There are many other that will help you get further with your readers and with other bloggers. I think that the above things are very important to become a successful blogger. I have seen these traits in every successful blogger that I have encountered.

In the end, offering value to your readers is important, but offering value to your fellow bloggers is important too. People notice when you read their blog posts and when you are just trying to get a backlink, and I’m assuming while many people appreciate any kind of discussion on their post, they would rather it be relevant and on topic. 


  1. Twitter:
    Hi Bellaisa,

    I totally agree with your points, I guess lots of people just comment for the sake of links… They hardly care about the past and don’t bother to read it properly before leaving the comment. But one thing is sure that you can easily catch these spammers as they have nothing to add to the conversation except nice or great post.
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    • Twitter:
      That is certainly true Pankaj. I see ‘nice post’ all the time.
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    • Pankaj @ i am completely agreed with you as you are one of them who comments only for backlinks only. However, Only useful and informative comments get online interactive as recently carried out survey says like so. Bellaisa @ I am not fully agreed with points such as – I have seen hundreds of bloggers those neither use advertising nor using affiliate marketing even they don’t accept paid guest post. But still they are writing on their blogs.

      • Twitter:
        I’m not really sure what you mean Nena. If a blogger doesn’t use advertising or affiliate marketing, they can make money in other ways, such as through their list. They don’t need to accept paid guest posts if they want, and of course they are still writing on their blogs…they are probably earning their reader’s trust in some way.
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  2. Hi Bellaisa

    With my blogging site, it’s all about providing value and making relationships with other bloggers.

    Obviously, people still need to make money though, so I have ads on my blog and occasionally review products.

    I will only review products that I’ve used myself and would recommend. If I don’t recommend them, I still review them but I’m honest about what I didn’t like about them.

    Over the past few weeks, time has escaped me a little and I’ve been commenting on blog posts much less. However, that’s more because of my lack of time management and I’ve put a plan in place so I can get back into it.

    Whenever anyone leaves a comment on my blog, I will always reciprocate if I can add any value to the commenter’s latest post. I always answer any comments left by my visitors on my blog.

    Hopefully that makes me less of a greedy blogger!

    And here I am signing my name to prove I read your post :-).

    Tim Bonner

  3. I believe that if we give quality to our visitors , then automatically our revenue can also increase , because people start believing things on our blogs and that is very impressive .
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  4. Twitter:
    The comments thing is something that irritates me as well.

    “Thanks for taking the time for this informative post. I’ll be sure to check back here soon”

    Its always something completely generic that they copy and paste on every blog they come accross. I think though that the admin that moderates the comments section is just as much to blame though for letting crappy comments through.

    Adam Penberthy.
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    • Twitter:
      That’s exactly why I wrote this post.

      Out of all my blogs and my guest posts, I get about 25% of the comments pertaining to the topic and the rest are all generic.

      I even participate in a writing community where leaving comments helps boost your ranking in the community, and I find that the people who get the highest rankings also leave crappy comments like the one you mentioned over and over and over….It’s very annoying.

      And yes, I agree with the admin letting crap get through. Sometimes a newbie won’t understand that the comments are just for comment sake, but people who have been blogging for a while have no excuse.

      Another name? ;)
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  5. Twitter:
    Most of those comments are sometimes spam comments left by bots.
    On the other hand, i do not approve comments that does not contribute tot he content been discussed.
    Thanks for the guide.
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  6. Twitter:
    I am agree with all of your point. One should not write articles just to rank better in Google’s rankings. With your cheap tactics you can get good rank for sometimes only, Google people will definitely come to know about your intention and will surely ban you for life if they don’t find anything helpful in your article. Spamming may help you get some instant money but it won’t really help if you are taking blogging as long time perspective. So one must try to give its all out efforts to provide all the information his/her reader is looking for.
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  7. Eric Strubert says:

    If you give your blog readers great and valuable content, Google will notice that your content is being shared across social networks and other blogs and that will improve your blog’s ranking. I always approve comments that contributes to my post or help other readers with tips. Spam is usually taking care of by Akismet which is a great spam fighter plugin.

  8. Twitter:
    This is what experienced by many bloggers.
    Hopefully with your post they will be more aware and agree with the point that you told.
    I really agree with your idea Bellaisa.

  9. Twitter:
    Yes, i strongly believe that with good contents come good readers and also when you write for readers with time you tend to generate revenue from your blog and aiming solely for the purpose of getting revenue will be a dead end for you if you don’t see your readers as a priority.
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  10. Twitter:
    I totally agree with you! Even I have faced the same thing on my blog – people comment without reading the whole post. I must admit, even I have done that many times, but I at least make sure that the comment is relevant to the post. I thank you for reminding such simple, yet useful blogging ethics. Yes, a blogger should be more concerned about adding value rather than selling something irrelevant.
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  11. Now days, peoples are thinking blogging means making money online but they are not taking it seriously.
    Blogging means you are solving others problems using your blog and make it easy. Bloggers always ready to share their knowledge to others. Put comment box in blog to make user friendly blog to make more discussion to get more knowledge and to learn something from your readers.
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  12. I have a question, generally blogs allow comments on their posts, we run our own blog but have comments turned off, main reason is because of all the spam comments we would get. Do you think it is better to have comments turned on? If so how do you deal with spam comments?

    • Twitter:
      I personally think it is better to have comments turned on. It adds content to the page, increases social sharing and interaction, and just makes for a better experience for the reader who can ask questions or express thoughts and opinions.

      Plus if you want other bloggers to interact with you, having a comment section is a great way to do so. Many bloggers, including myself, will not interact too much with blogs that don’t have a comment section. One reason is because there is no way to leave a backlink and another reason is because it is frustrating not to give your opinion when you have one. ;) It is also easier to build relationships with other bloggers when you let them comment on your blog and interact with them.

      There are ways to deal with spam, and I personally think having the comments outweighs not having the comments.

      I have found that not approving spam comments reduces the amount you get. Eventually spammers leave you alone, and automated services that leave thousands of spam comments on your blog do too. But, I have had to send thousands of spam comments to the spam section, I haven’t found another way around that. Some people use different tools to stop spam, but I haven’t tried them – except comment luv’s spam function.
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  13. Loving the strait to the pointness Bellaisa, more people need to learn that receiving information is what gives them knowledge. Someone had to teach them so why not teach someone else with their own content.

  14. Twitter:
    Many of comments here are off of your topic!:)… ^^You are experienced here what you are saying in your article.By the way, It’s absolutely right to build a relationship with your readers and maintains them.
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  15. Hello Bellaisa,
    I know of many bloggers who focus more on money rather than delivering good content that people would love.
    Content is what attract people to your and making your content as best as possible is what all bloggers should think of and also engagement is very important.
    Thanks for the post and do have a good week…
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  16. Twitter:
    Haha,…. So true Bellaisa… First when i came to blogging i blogged for money and i got it… But gradually i thought that i must put in some value to my readers too.. Its not like i am generating $$$ for a crap….Only then i made a new blog and started out quality writings by my expert author and asked him just to focus on providing quality and dont go for seo…:)
    And i am loving the new results… Peoples love + money
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  17. Twitter:
    Blogging ethics is something very important and all bloggers should take note of. I hate it when people try to spam my blog and I guess we all hate it. So bloggers must practice to give in order to get. If you are not interactive on other blogs, then don’t expect others to be interactive on your blog. And if you hate spam, then don’t spam. Thanks so much for sharing this nice post
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  18. Hi Bellaisa!

    I totally liked the title of the post, “Are you a Greedy Blogger”.. I was visiting a blog of my friend, where I read the title in commentluv! :-D
    Giving a deep thought, but just during blogging, but the entire life is all about giving! :-)
    As far as blogging is concerned, I try to make rich content for my readers in form of giveaways, the regular home-use software’s and at times for my fellow blogging mates, I organize themes or other blog related giveaways! :-)

  19. Twitter:
    I think blogging is all about take and give. The more we give the more we get. If we are greedy? We won’t get as much as we think.
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  20. Twitter:
    Hello Bellaisa!

    Just what you said! After reading that middle paragraph of yours, I took time to scan through all the comments: most (even of well known bloggers) did not have a name signed at the end.

    You’re so correct, Bellaisa!

    However, as a seasoned blogger who is concerned about the reputation of his blog, I simply delete such comments…I’d rather have a dry post than harbor comments with no relevance whatsoever.

    Thanks for your time – that little experiment of adding the name was fun! Permit me to use it anytime soon!

    Do have a great day!

    - Terungwa
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    • Twitter:
      Ah! Your are 1 of 3 people so far! I was starting to lose hope. ;) Please, use it whenever you want.

      I am the same with the comments. When I go to a blog and see a bunch of crap comments, I feel as though the interaction is faked or solely for links, but when I go to a blog and see real, conversational comments, I know that the webmaster is on to something.

      Thanks for the comment Terungwa
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  21. Hi Bellaisa,

    I wanted to add that undervalued comments just shouldn’t be taken serious even if you happen to see those spammy types here and there, i mean idk why anyone would think a spam comment is a good filler to the blog post anyway. At first i thought a greedy blogger, would be someone not letting people comment on their blog, lol. Thanks for the time in making your point on annoying spammers, i would hate to come across as one if i couldn’t contribute mind to the conversation.

  22. Twitter:
    Hello Bellaisa,
    Some valid points you mentioned here, and i agree with all; many people write fake product reviews just to earn little affiliate commissions, i don’t feel like promoting products which I’ve not used. . . i believe blogging is all about adding value and giving proper information. . .
    And yeah, many people just read couple of sentences and don’t even reach middle of the post. . .
    Here’s my signature move — Adithya ;)
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  23. Obbie Afri Gultom says:

    I don’t agree wit u Belleisa, well, I completely OK with the “giving and receiving” thing but you forgot that Blogging is not only contains useful article, some may contains with disagreement about something such as politic, religion and many more.

    • Twitter:
      That’s fine Obbie. Blogging can be about a bunch of different subjects, and argumentative articles are giving value in their own way – they add insight into people’s lives in some way. Did you read my article? I wasn’t talking about those kind of blogs; I was talking about people who are all about trying to make money in any way possible, or people leave crappy comments after they read the first paragraph, headlines, or just the title and don’t have insight into the rest of the article.
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  24. Twitter:
    Still i did not got anything from my blog. I don’t know what to do now . :(
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  25. I really want to know how to blog freely and in the same time in prison of seo

  26. Twitter:
    There has to be a delicate balance between giving away a ton of free information and also being able to earn money as a blogger. This time of year there are a ton of sales going on with my affiliates so I currently am in “sell mode” at the moment.

    I definitely give away alot more information than I do trying to sell to my audience though.

    Take Care.
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  27. I talk about this all the time to colleges and people I work with. You have to give to get. Keeping the principle of altruism and asking yourself what you are bringing to add value always comes back ten fold and you will always make out ok with this attitude. Blog on!

  28. Great post and definitely which I recognize. It is a shame when a blogger only looks at his own comments and not bother to check out what another blogger has to say.


  29. My first thought is I am not greedy, but I also recognize there is something more I can do. I have put other bloggers on my post.

    However, I hear it is good for making your articles go viral.
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  30. Twitter:
    Blogger itself I means helping others and that’s what I do.Don’t know how much peoples benefit from my blog but I regularly given one on one help to newbies or those who need me.
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  31. Twitter:
    It all boils dow to quality of content. As a realtor servicing Charleston SC real estate I normally write about updates, news, and trends happening in Charleston area as well as the real estate industry as a whole.

    I share not only showing properties but also events/activities in the said areas as well as answering my visitors queries about real estate related topics. I also encourage my visitors to share their own experiences about a particular subject discussed in my blog post. This fuels fruitful conversation and foster engagement.

    People go online not only to communicate but also to learn or find answers to their questions. By providing useful information, you’re creating a positive impression to your audience, and sooner or later, you become a trusted authority in the business. Sales will follow afterwards.

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  32. Twitter:
    Thank for this share.
    Personally, I try to do the both. Earn money and add value for reader.
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  33. Twitter:
    To me blogging to add value to people’s life should be priority. If you do this well and people realize that you are a honest person who is ready to give, they will have trust in you and anything you ask them to do they will do. This means at the longrun you will make more money than focusing on money alone at the bigining. Thanks
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  34. Twitter:
    I think blogging is– not all– but –also about giving and receiving and I don’t think its wrong to expect more in return as long as you provide quality content ,that’s what we call a PROFIT right? I dont think its ethically wrong to try and expect more in return. I am against spamming in comments and all but advertising yourself is am okay with..
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  35. Leon Bailey says:

    Good read! As far as bloggers being greedy. I have actually noticed this a lot. A lot preach about being social and sharing love, but do they actually comment on their guests blog posts? Return social media followers? I haven’t had much success with getting love back. However, can’t quit trying? :)

  36. Twitter:
    I believe the percentage of repeat visitors to the website can be a measure of how much value is given to the website visitors. It is always good to have a balance between giving good value to visitors and making money. And I agree with you, one must read the complete post before leaving comments. I learn a lot each time I read the complete post.
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  37. Hello dear:
    Yes i am agree with you, almost all the people didn’t read the body of a post, they just read the title then first 2-3 line and after that give comment to get a backlink.which is not a good method as you already said that they miss all the important information.
    Thank you for sharing such a great thought with us

  38. Twitter:
    Haha, finally a post on ethics in blogging. I always credit people by citing them as sources and giving them back a dofollow backlink.

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  39. Twitter:
    I always prefer my readers because they are my everything :)

  40. Twitter:
    One way to give more is when making a comment, include of the blog authors keywords to reinforce them. They may not be important to you, not your keywords, but those of the author. Bloggers need to give back to the blog author in the comment itself.
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  41. Twitter:
    Hello Bellaisa,

    I agree with the point of “Receiving and Giving”. You have mentioned that blogger recommend products to their readers and a good blogger promote products which he has used. As an example, when I was reading “Darren Rowse’s” “31 Days build a better blog” there he said that he promote only products which he has used and also good and he even uses several products to write a review on it.

    So if you are ethical blogger and want to be a successful blogger then don’t lie to your readers and many readers place a comment under blog posts to create links and often they write a comment after “Scanning content” so the comment sometimes are not perfect.

    Thanks for your personal view on blogging.
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  42. I completely agree with everything you said. When I started learning about blogging it was actually recommended to me that I only “scan” other people’s blog posts so I can leave a comment that makes it “look” like I read the whole thing and I care. I highly disliked it, and only comment on blog posts that interest me and I always read fully.

    About giving value, there is a fine balance where you need to give a lot to your readers, yet can’t give too much. I find that if unsure, it is best to err on the side of giving too much.


  43. Twitter:
    Yes there are a lot of bloggers do not realize that if they blog constantly and provide more value to their readers, they can create a large market for their services in the future.
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  44. Twitter:
    Bellaisa those are some interesting points you made and like you said before only the bloggers who intentions are just to get a backlink won’t take time to read the entire article.

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  45. Excellent post, i always tend to offer value to my readers and subscribers because everyone should build a healthy relationship based on the trust of readers
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  46. Twitter:
    At the moment my blog does really make any money, i am a domain blogger and what i do is supply lists of available to register brandable domain names so that new start-ups and new bloggers can find a short, catchy name for registration fee instead of paying $$$$ for a domain name. I do advertise my own brandable domain names on there as well but that is it. The feedback i get from the blog is great and its great to list that loads of the names i have suggested have now been registered and some are even developed.. brings a sense of happiness to know that the blog helps :)
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  47. Twitter:
    Bellaisa, this is a very wide spread problem amongst bloggers. Being able to receive heart felt legitimate responses to ones hard work is actually quite rare. I get tons of comments each day that represent exactly what you’re talking about. If I had a nickel for every comment that started and ended with “Great Post” I’d be one rich mo-fo…lol
    Anyway, I think it’s great that someone such as yourself has taken the initiative to let the world know that we’re on to their scam :) Although sometimes it’s super easy to get wrapped up in all the writing, promoting and selling your brand we sometimes forget the most important part. And that’s supporting each other by reading and commenting with legitimate responses. Oh, by the way, “Great Post!” :)

    Best Regards,
    Robert Tuttle
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    • Twitter:
      I hear you! A penny for every time would even make me rich!

      It’s funny how this post that even talks about crappy comments is getting a ton of crappy, self-promoting (and not in a good way) comments!

      Bloggers need to understand that people respect a good comment (like yours) and THEN trust the person more because of it. I have never seen one successful person who didn’t interact with other people in a meaningful way on some level.
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      • Twitter:
        Thank you for the reply Bellaisa. You’re absolutely right in the fact a blogger that doesn’t seem to respond to their readers or interact is almost like just talking to a computer. I’ve always made it my mission to try and answer each and every comment I receive in some way, unfortunately even if they are bogus…lol. Although I’ve yet to find success in blogging, my main focus has been solid content and building a following based on trust, which is hard enough as it is.

        Oh BTW, I believe I was Number 8 :D

  48. Twitter:
    Brilliantly written article, Once should go with the value of readers and not with money making mind. If you are going on with money making tendency then you won’t achieve anything. Money and fame will follow you soon after you start writing articles for your readers. Like professional ethics every blogger should be aware of blogging ethics and should stick on to the basis of it. Thanks again howdy for sharing this with us,
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  49. Twitter:
    Great Article, Blogging gives Knowledge and Money, Both are very important for a human. Blogging helped me lot to develop many skills.. Great to be a blogger
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  50. Twitter:
    Great post, We always should concentrate on quality of our post because that is our product and when also visitors see your post as valuable content that is selling. The math is simple more happy visitors more money.

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  51. Hey bellaisa,
    Nice post and Yes, these days many people just start blogging for making money and their main purpose is just to only receive. Earlier days, people just does blogging for sharing information what they have but now these days, the concept is totally change but I must say, with this attitude we can never achieve success in blogging. For getting success, we have to give values to our readers and also our fellow bloggers.
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