If you have been set up for a blind date, you likely are filled with a wonderful mix of emotions. On one hand, you may be hoping that the friend who set you up had some incredible foresight in knowing that you two were meant for each other. Many people look forward to the prospect of a blind date with great hope, and yet there is also some fear about not being “good enough” for the other person or simply not being liked. There can also be an element of stress involved, too, as you ponder the prospect of spending an entire evening with someone who you really don’t know and may not even like!
When preparing for a blind date, it is often best to cast aside doubts and worries, and to really plan for the best outcome. If you want to give your upcoming blind date every chance for success, here are some tips to follow that can help you make that happen:
Make a Great First Impression
Certainly the person on the other side of your blind date has heard as much about you as you have heard about him or her. So while you haven’t exactly seen this person before, you both likely know quite a bit about each other. However, first impressions are everything, and so you want to really dress to impress. You will certainly want to dress for the activity that you have chosen to do. For instance, if you are bowling and grabbing burgers at a local 50s diner-style restaurant, high heels and a mini-dress aren’t the best choice even though you would certainly look stunning. Choose practical but attractive clothing that shows off your best attributes, express your unique sense of style, and is suitable for the activity that you are planning to do.
You should also pay attention to hygiene. Be sure your nails are trimmed and clean. If you are a woman, treat yourself to a manicure and pedicure before the date. Men should be clean-shaven or facial hair should be trimmed and neat. Keep in mind that just a little bit of perfume or cologne goes a long way. You don’t want your date to be overpowered by your scent all evening, even if it is otherwise a pleasant scent.
Everyone has some unique interests, activities, stories, and so forth that people love to hear about. Before your date, try to brainstorm some of these things that are most interesting about you. Your date is sure to ask some questions about you, and you want to be prepared with some great things to say.
Keep in mind that what you choose to stay about yourself on that first date will say a lot about who you are as a person. The last thing you want to do is give off the impression that you are a home-body, a workaholic, or something with a similar negative connotation. So try to include a great mix of interests in your conversation. You can talk about work a little bit and about that great book that you are reading, but you also want to talk about other things, too. If you have learned that you and your date share some interests together from the mutual friend who set you up, that is a great topic to start out talking about.
Don’t Be Selfish
While your date certainly wants to spend some time learning more about you during the date, nobody wants to sit there and listen to you talk about how great you are the entire evening. By all means, spend time talking about yourself so your date has enough information to determine if he or she wants to see you again, but you want your date feel like you are interested in learning more about him or her, too. You should absolutely spend some of the evening asking about things like your date’s job, interests, background, and more.
While you want to learn more about him or her, you don’t want to make it sound like you are holding an interrogation. You should make an effort to ask questions and then use the answers as a basis of a conversation. For instance, you can also say things like, “Oh, that sounds like it would have been… “ or “Wow, how did that make you feel?” so that a conversation can start to be developed around their response to your questions.
You should also make a point of avoiding very serious topics like future plans for a family or possibly explosive topics such as politics and social issues. It is best to keep more serious topics for a later date and keep everything on the first date light, easy, and upbeat.
At The End of the Blind Date
By the end of your blind date, you likely have a good idea about whether or not you want to see this person again for a second date or if one date was more than enough. In many cases, your feelings about whether to pursue a second date or not will be reciprocated, but there are times when one person may feel differently about how the date went than the other person feels.
To avoid any confusion whatsoever, you should make your feelings about the date perfectly clear. It can be awkward to do, but it will save you plenty of grief later by being upfront about it. If you feel that the date went well, absolutely say that you had a great time and that you would like to see him or her again. If the date was a dud, be tactful but clear. Often saying something like that you don’t think the two of you are a good fit is enough of a letdown to make your intentions clear but won’t lead the other person on.
Whether your first blind date continues on into a great new relationship or it ends after just that first date, you will find that following these tips will make your evening altogether more pleasant for the both of you. If your first blind date does lead to a long term relationship, you will be happy that you put your best foot forward with these tips!
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