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Listen To Your Conscious
The most important Internet dating safety tip is that you should pay close attention to your instinct. This holds true whether you are chatting with someone online, meeting in person, or talking on the phone. Think of your instinct as an early warning system that is there to help keep you out of trouble. If someone says or does something that seems dishonest they probably are. Pay attention if something seems odd, out of place, risky, or untrue. If you feel unsure or threatened by the person or the circumstances, bail.
When Dating Online – Keep Some Secrets
Never post your full name, address, or your phone number online. Only reveal your first name because a full name and city is often sufficient for someone to run an background check on you to obtain your home address, phone number, and other vital information. You should also be careful about the information you openly publish on social networking sites too because its the first place predators will look to learn extra information about you. Remember that Facebook and other social networking sites offer security mechanisms to protect your information – learn to use it or ask a friend to help you.
It is important to be honest without revealing too much personal information. If someone online seems to be prying or asking for more information than you want to reveal it might be time to end the chat. Alternatively, you could say, “I don’t think it’s a good idea to tell you that, just yet. Remember, I don’t really know you.” The other person should be understanding and stop pushing you for info. If not, it’s time to end the conversation.
Online be sure you use a third party email account that provides anonymity. These are plenty of sources to obtain an free email address including: Google, Yahoo, and MSN just to name a few. Setup a username that contains no more than your first name such as Alice2011 or Joe999. Retain a copy of all email correspondence by sending a blind copy (bcc) of each message to yourself and retain a copy of all messages received from others.
The experts suggest keeping your phone number a secret, at least for a while. It’s easy to get caught up in the rush of excitement over a new relationship but what if you decide to end it? Setup an free account on Skype.com in advance so that you can give someone your Skype username, like “Sandy1″. Many people have had the unpleasant experience of having to change phone numbers, because an “ex” would not leave us alone. Whether you meet someone in a bar or in an online dating chat rooms, you need to think about things like that. This caution might not seem very romantic, but it is practical.
First Dates
When you do decide it is time to “meet in real life”, choose a public location for the meeting and provide your own transportation. Consider having a friend accompany you or drop you off. If things go well, your friend can make a casual exit. Alternatively, tell a family member or a friend where you are going and when they should expect to hear from you or see you. Make sure your date knows that someone is expecting to hear from you later. The reason for these safety measures is simple. Predators and con-artists use both free and paid dating chat rooms. They target people who they believe to be weak. You don’t want to become a victim. Meeting for lunch in the mall is a good idea for a first date. An afternoon meeting on the weekend is a better choice than an evening meeting. Stay in a public place even if you are pressured. If someone continues to pressure you end the meeting.
Stick to non-alcoholic drinks when meeting anyone for the first time. Alcohol does not make the best first impression and it could cause you to be less alert than you should be. When meeting someone new, carefully observe your drinks at all times and ask for a fresh drink when you return after being absent for any reason.
For long-distance meetings a few extra precautions are suggested. Stay in a hotel and do not accept any accommodation offers. Don’t agree to be picked up at the airport. Provide your own transportation. Don’t transmit any cell phone images to a prospective date via email because can be used to locate you if your cell phone has GPS enabled.
Enjoy Your Date
These safety measures are not meant to be discouraging. Plenty of people have found love online. People who are actually looking for love should be just as cautious as you.
About This Dating Advice Author
Sarah Connor has a B.S. Degree from the University of Maryland. As a well-known Internet dating safety advocate, Sarah T. Connor has been actively advocating the passage of Internet dating safety laws. She is also a successful dating advice guru and the publisher of Free Date dot net; a 100% totally free online dating and matching service for singles who are looking for that special someone.
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Great article. Treat your safety as you would going out hiking alone.
Thanks for the comment and your hiking analogy is a good one!
Those are some really nice tips. While dating online, it is sometimes not a good idea to give a lot of information. People can pretend to be anyone. Whenever I meet someone new, I always meet them in a public place, more like a coffee shop.
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someone looks a little “perky” in that default pic you used… LOL
anyways, online dating is always risky and you never know who you are talking to until you actually meet the person face to face – good write up and it will be helpful to those who do online dating
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Thanks for the comments zoopco!
The worst thing that happened to me on a date with a girl i met online, was that the girl didn’t looked quite as good as in the pictures
) Besides that i didn’t had any problems, and i met with quite a lot of girls from the internet.
But anyway, the article is very useful, especially for women!
Thanks for your kind sentiments and keep on using the net to find your soulmate
Sarah
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every year internet users are increasing from worldwide.chatting and dating are common nowadays so from your article has good points.however i believe in future their would be more dating sites since anybody can search from mobile.
recently few of the boys who fooled to seniors on yahoo chat by making a girl id.
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The Internet still needs some additional user verification technologies. They will come eventually. Thanks for your kind sentiments and keep on using the net to find your soulmate
Sarah
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Yeah it would be good if govt try to catch those things but i say this is never some sites where they ask for fees and they may arrange real members but no one can tell whether they are real or not.on many webmaster forums or ebooks you find that make a profile a girls on facebook or soical network sites and start to promote the products LOL.This is biggest foolish teaching thing to make fool others.
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I believe one should always keep a privacy of himself especially when getting involved in an online dating. Keep in mind that what you got into is risky so you must be careful. One wrong move and something bad might happen to you. Guard yourself… know your limitations. But don’t forget to enjoy your date just like what it says on the last tip of the article.
In deciding to meet in person you should be really very careful and cautious of everything. trust your instincts. Online dating is surely fun and exciting but you should also think about some of it’s consequences. Besides, it is your obligation to keep your self from harm.
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Location, location, location! Choosing a meeting place is extremely important. Agree to meet at a place that is neutral, not too far from your dwellings and be familiar with the area.
Safety is extremely important. You broke it down very nicely. Thanks for the read.
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Listen to your conscience is probably the best advice you could give anybody in a place they are unfamiliar with. I absolutely agree with the statement if it doesn’t feel right bail.
Another suggestion for those meeting in person for the first time, make sure someone knows where you are meeting, and arrange a time to have them check in with you, it may sound a little childish but if you find yourself needing an excuse to disappear this can be a great non-confrontational way to do so.
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very nice share,, my first online date was so bad :p
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regarding safety its necessary to keep all these topics in mind. thanks sarah its really very good information who are addicted to online dating, specially teenagers.
Wonderful safety tips. I’m not particular on dating sites, because i don’t want to risk myself in that kind of activity unless such very important one. Thanks for reminding us here about dating sites.
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the title + the picture= it’s scary.. I am not sure if I want to start using dating sites after reading this but I am sure that I will finish those security mechanism I have been ignoring. As far as I know , Facebook is the only social media site that is so serious about this privacy and security settings and yes up until now I was ignoring their reminders. It’s not too late to do them now I guess.
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Great reminders. When you are having a date online you have to limit yourself in telling some information most likely about personal. Dating is good actually because it will help you to know more about that certain person but just limit!
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Online dating has been very popular these days. I agree that we have to put boundaries and be very careful of the information we provide on social media sites.
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When I first enter in a certain dating sites, at first, I’m having so much fun and enjoy but then as time goes by I got discourage because most of the men in the dating sites are filthy and I don’t like it, I really hate it! Thanks for this great reminders and I so much thankful for that.
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In these times you just cannot be sure of people’s motivations and intentions online. I have known too many friends who unfortunately have had terrible experiences. You can prevent it. The point you flagged I’d like to stress- always always trust your instinct. And if your instinct says you’ve found someone special too, run with it without fear:) Great tips!
True story: when I was younger and very naïve, I was robbed in Bruges, Belgium after getting in tight with what I thought to be an attractive girl who was interested in “getting to know me” in the physical sense.
Even as a fit and athletic young man, I am cautious about meeting up with anyone whom I did not approach on my own in real life. These lessons are always important for anyone who intends to meet someone from the internet in real life.
Lots of women I know also arrange for a mate to ring about 5 minutes into the date, just in case things are going wrong in any capacity. Some even have a code word that they can use to indicate “get me the hell out of here now”, or something similar.
Great tips, Sarah. I am really glad this message is being spread. It makes the whole game more fun for good guys to be set up with good women without worrying about anything going south of proper in terms of safety, which makes for a much less stressful and more enjoyable dating experience!
Also, a shameless self-plug: as a former aficionado of “online game”, as I like to call it, I have my own personal approach to optimising one’s online dating profile: http://www.evolvewithevo.com/online-dating-profile/
Anyway Sarah, thanks for the great post. Cheers everyone!
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Really got some awesme tips here…. u must keep some secrets there…
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yaa you told right we must keep secres while chatting to strangers as there are many cases coming on TV these days…
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When we hear about dating we immediately become some curious .But its necessary that we must follow some safety tips also .Really appreciated article .
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hey nice tips sara. well, i do not use these kind of sites but these are really some cool and nice tips for those who use these kind of dating sites and these tips will keep them out of any kind of trouble
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agree noone should explore all of her secret in first date after all you can not know a person’s thought in first meeting ….Nice info
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Very useful info on keeping secrets. Let that stuff out very slowly, you never know what they know or who they are. I have sold a couple of things on craigslist and had to change my phone number because of one person, I wasn’t even meeting someone, there are very unusual people out there these days!
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I’m 100% agree with you. One of my friend’s video was leaked by some anonymous and it take a long time to take down from everywhere. I have mailed him this post.
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hello sara
i dont use these kind of sites but yes these are some great tips if you want to stay safe. thanks for sharing these great tips with us. i will keep in mind these things if i ever use these sites
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Thanks Sarah for once again taking the time to remind us of the importance of observing these important points while dating online. However, it is sad to note the number of people who still report being abused or their information being used to manipulate them, while they were the ones who revealed too much about themselves. lets take these simple, but very important guidelines to heart.