Meeting your boyfriend’s parents is a huge milestone in your dating relationship together. For some women, the prospect can be both exciting and promising. After all, such an event indicates that your boyfriend feels positive about the future of your relationship together. Often meeting a beau’s parents is a sign that your relationship has advanced to a more serious stage, making this truly a special occasion.
Yet for many women, meeting your boyfriend’s parents can also be very intimidating. You may wonder what is in store for the future of your relationship together if his parents don’t like you. You may be stressed about the anticipation of being judged or “sized up” by people who your boyfriend likely holds in very high regard. Just the thought of these possibilities can really leave you feeling stressed and frazzled.
There are so many conflicting thoughts and emotions that may be running through your mind before you meet your boyfriend’s parents for the first time, and often this inner turmoil makes it difficult to pinpoint how you truly feel about the pending situation. However, there are some things that you can do to prepare yourself for the big event, and this can help you to feel more relaxed and at ease when the moment to meet his parents does arrive. After all, simply appearing calm and at ease can go a long way towards making a great first impression! Here are some things to keep in mind as you prepare for the big day:
Dressing To Impress His Parents
First impressions are often lasting impressions, and you absolutely want to dress to impress his parents on your big day of introduction. Now, don’t break out your old prom dress and get completely dolled up. Instead, dress in your best attire that is suitable for the occasion. The big event may even be a special day that calls for a new outfit, so by all means go out and do some shopping to find the perfect outfit.
As you select the right outfit, keep in mind that you want to look attractive, presentable, and fashionable. However, you definitely want to avoid wearing anything too revealing that may leave a negative impression in his parents’ minds. Your outfit should reflect who you are as a person rather than whom you think they may want you to be. While you want to look your best, you also want to be comfortable in your attire. Avoid wearing clothes that you need to constantly adjust or fidget with, and that are too tight or constricting. Shoes should also be completely comfortable, too. You will have enough to worry about on your big day without adding wardrobe issues to the list.
Make-up, hair, and nails should be done to give a polished look to your ensemble. Consider visiting the hair salon and getting a mani-pedi before the big day so you truly look your best.
Bring A Gift
When meeting anyone new in their home you can always score a few points by remembering to bring a small gift such as a box of chocolates, a favored CD/DVD, a bottle of wine, or even a plant. This makes an immediate and lasting warm impression about you with his parents.
You likely already know quite a few things about your boyfriend’s parents just from spending time with him and listening to him talk about them. However, talk to your boyfriend a little bit more about them so you really know what to expect. Think about things like what line of work they are in, where they were raised, what college they went to, what their interests are, and so forth. By all means, you should show interest in them and ask questions about their jobs, hobbies, and other interests.
It may help to read up on some of their most avid interests and hobbies. You certainly don’t want to pretend to be an expert on something you know nothing about, but having some background information on something they love to talk about can make it easier to carry on a conversation with them.
In addition to learning more about their background information, ask your boyfriend about their mannerisms, ideology on dating and pre-marital relationships, and other such issues so you can fully prepare for a conversation with them. Even if you determine that your boyfriend’s parents are laid back and casual, you should still plan to be well mannered and respectful toward them.
Plan To Answer His Parents Questions
His parents are sure to have a lot of questions for you. You can likely expect some basic questions about where you work or what you are studying in school, and what your plans are for the future. Take time to prepare these answers in your head beforehand. Some parents may also ask more personal questions; such as if you have plans for raising a family in the profession you have chosen. Often, such very personal questions can be answered with a polite but generic response, or you may choose to let your boyfriend respond to such questions.
Will Siblings Be Present?
Oftentimes, meeting a boyfriend’s parents entails meeting siblings, too. Siblings should also be treated politely and with respect, and you should make an effort to include them in conversations when appropriate. It can be helpful to you to know beforehand if they will be there for the first meeting, and you should take measures to prepare for meeting them just as you prepare to meet his parents. You may want to think of a few questions beforehand to ask his siblings, too, such as what they are studying in school, how that vacation was that they just came back from, and so forth.
Often, that first meeting with your boyfriend’s parents and other family members can be awkward and uneasy, but if you take time to really prepare for the occasion and put your best foot forward, you will find that you have laid a solid foundation for developing a great relationship with them.
If your relationship with your boyfriend continues on for the long-term, and especially if it develops into something more significant such as a marriage, you will be happy that you took the time to really make a great first impression with them and that you took time to prepare for this big day.
Speak Up – What is your experience meeting parents?
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