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- Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back - January 13, 2013
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So you want to get your ex girlfriend back. Technique, strategy, tricks and tactics. It’s all very alluring to think of having a reigned control over pulling your estranged lover back into the nook of your arm, like gently steering a pure bred mare. And the promise of this commodity, this knowledge, is priceless isn’t it?
Take a moment to reiterate what that entails, really mull it over. Is this purely a game to you? Is it a manipulation card you wish to play, to trick your ex into giving you another chance? For shame, gentleman, for shame.
Do you really know the woman you want back so badly, for the person she is? More importantly, do you really want her back? Have you actually thought this through, contemplating it to the very core of your being? Do you realize that once you get her back, you’ll have her back? Or are you simply having a craving, the way you crave that ritual double-shot macchiato.
You are talking about winning back the woman that you adore, not winning a prize. Unless you understand this completely, you are not ready to walk this path. Something as delicate as influencing another person’s life, should be approached with respect and pure intentions, from a place of peace.
The No Contact Rule is a rule that initially cuts you off from your ex for a plethora of reasons, but prominently because you are not in the correct state of mind to face her. Fresh grief and riddled with pain is an altered state at best. It’s those moments that you say things you don’t mean that explode from this state, which push the boundaries of forgiveness.
Forgiveness is essentially what you are after. In a frenzy to get your ex girlfriend back, you are really just out to get her forgiveness. Even if you believe you have done nothing wrong, an outright separation is a blatant statement that something was wrong in your relationship. We all know it takes two to tumble. But all empathy aside, the only behavior you have control over is your own, so best take responsibility for it.
While experiencing a break up you will be fed loads of reasons for the happenstance. She fell out of love with you. She found someone else who is more of a man than you. Financial crises took their toll. You really let yourself go. Adversarial natures really flared between you. You lost sight of your dreams, let your ambition sleep. You don’t wrack up near enough flowers and sickly sweet candy. That hair cut makes you look like Joe Dirt.
The never ending potential of what led to your demise. But what if this is all superfluous to the one true cause: Somehow you let your connection slip.
What makes a couple into a partnership? They are connected in some way. And circumstantially in all ways; emotionally, psychologically, physically. It’s like eye contact. When held, you can communicate without words, know the other is there for you and feel a togetherness. As soon as eye contact breaks, all of that goes out the window and you are left with a sense of loss, feeling in limbo.
I implore you to shuffle your mindset and instead of trying to get your ex girlfriend back like an inanimate object, that you search to reconnect with your ex girlfriend and ignite a combustion of requited love.
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Thank you Mike ! you have a excellent ideas to reconnecting with ex-girldfrieds. i this it will be really fruitful for those partners who has misunderstnding and misleading behaviour with each others. your tricks is really nice a useful to begin new life of a couple. thank you again!
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I think the post is how best to reconnect while remaining honest as well as fixing yourself.
‘Tricks’ tends to suggest that these guidelines ar emanipulative which I don’t think Mike is intending them for – just saying
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Hi Martin thank you for your comment and i agree with your opinion. I respespct it.
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Hi mike,
Forgiving some one is the best gift you are giving to him/her.So we should forgive every one and we should give them one chance.Forget your past and try to make your future beautiful.
Thanks fro sharing awesome article.
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I think the important thing you should do is to kill you ego and be a gentleman. If you’re nice only then you can expect good behavior from others. Forget what happened with you in past and start everything fresh but do take lesson from your bad experiences.
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It’s always a shame to lose contact with a woman that you still care about, but if you take precaution to make sure that you don’t seem like the only reason why you want to reconnect with her is to get back together,you may just get your chance. And the cool thing about it is… it may then lead to the two of you getting back together after all.
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Nice comment Malemsenen. It’s happened to me before and I’ve been together with her for 5 years now.
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Mike, you know what’s the best thing you can do? Move on! Trust me, I’ve been down this road and if there’s one thing that I’ve learnt, its that if it didn’t work the first time around, it won’t work again. Once an ex, always an ex (golden rule right there fellas!), plenty of other fish in the sea, right?
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It really depends on what happened.
I think if people have been doing the horizontal tango with others then there is nothing left to go back to.
People have been trained by our society to accept and even appreciate negative behavior.
If that was in the relationship its time to move on.
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Hi Mike,
Nice article. Your ideas are convincing ,But i think if your ex is out of your life then don’t try come back.After a relation is over and if one try to get his or her back then if by chance if it happens then life and relation comes out to really messed up.It is my opinion,and i think many will agree with me on this.
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Hi Mike, excellent article. You have some very good and insightful suggestions here. I’ve been in a relationship for years and have been divorced twice before. This time I’m taking my time. Like the old saying, patience is a virtue. Thanks Mike and Happy Holidays!
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Hello Mike this is a very good read. I beleive that once a relationship is over, it is very difficult to bring it back to the same level that is was once before, unless both people just “let go” of their past issues.
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sounds so difficult. can’t it be just flowers and expensive dinner
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Time heals a lot of things. If you want a girl back you need to let her cool down a bit before trying to reconnect.
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Hi Mike, nice article, but as for me I don’t see any good reason in trying to get back you ex-girlfriend while you can get new one.
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I must agree with you.. try to be better man and find better girlfriend…
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In my opinion I would not fall in that techniques, nice try.
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I believe the first step should be thinking Why and If you Truly want to get back with your ex. Usually, there is a very good reason why you broke up.
Give it some time first, see if you still feel the same way about it after at least a month of living without her, and go from there afterwards. Check if you still feel the same way.
I see too many couples getting back together only to be remembered why they broke up in the first place, and to do it a second time, just a lot worse. It’s one of those cases where you should really give it some thought before acting.
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When I read the title, it made me smile and curious and I told myself, i might use this in the future so im gonna go ahead read this piece and I was like nodding alone here. You know what, all you’ve said are true, basing on my friends’ stories and my own experiences as well, these statements of yours are true. They may sound funny to some, but there’s nothing wrong on trying, right?
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Interesting article. I think we should move on in our life. Forgetting past is difficult but no impossible. Anyway Thanks for this article.
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Hi Mike,
I have always believed that getting a gf back after breakup was less than 1%. I think its also depends on who initiated the breakup. One should also be 100% clear on if they really want their gf back. If not, like Lana said, one should learn to move on with their life however difficult it is.
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According to me it all depends of the ex-partner if she is good of nature and matured enough then she will again surely be yours. Their are many factors linking to it. Also, both should forgive and forget the past!
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For me, the best thing is. Let it go, give her time. But it depend with situation. If we breakup because some money problem but she still love and waiting, we can hold it but while we try to generate income give her chance to find another guy.
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I think if once you decided to part with the girl, it’s better not to change the decision. Because you have had some reasons to do so. If you did not have those reasons, before the next relationships worth to understand yourself better.
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Interesting but really these tricks or method get my gf back admin ??
Great post. I love the no contact rule. Things we have all been through.
Good article man, and no contact certainly works. About a year ago my ex left me, and she was honestly closer to me than anyone else in my life. I had fallen into a rut and kept doing some depressive crap, and she couldn’t keep up with it anymore and left. I spent about a week trying everything I could to get back together with her, and yeah.. that just pushed her away like crazy. So, a buddy of mine told me to stop contacting her, just completely go no contact. I thought he was nuts, since my goal was to keep that strand out there for her to come back, not completely walk away and not look back. However, I listened.
I mostly did it because I knew if I kept contact, I’d never heal, and she’d see me as a flop. If I was going to potentially get her back, I had to be myself again, and more importantly.. a better man than I was at the end. I also figured, screw it, if she doesn’t come back, I need to be back to myself so I can move on and find someone new. Well, about 7 months down the line, I get a message from her. She snooped on my facebook and saw all my progress, the things I’ve been doing lately, ect. Now 2 1/2 months after that, we’re friends again, we’re flirting, it’s like how we use to be. I don’t doubt that within the next few months, everything I had hoped for back when I was hurt will come about, it’s all because of this.
NO CONTACT works. It shouldn’t be used as a game, but as a means to get on your feet and be you again. There’s something that she fell in love with in me before, and the only way I got that back is by moving on from that break up and being myself again. The difference now is that I know what I was doing wrong within myself, and if something does spark here, I think this second round will be twice as strong as the last. Good stuff man.
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hahah…this is what i call ”eye catching title”
nice tips mike. i have a lover and we are together and i don’t want to loose her,ever.
so i don’t know whether these tips works but surely a great post. you are reconnecting lovers and this is a great thing
All this techniques are good, but like Jeff said – the best technique is to move on. I recently break up with my girlfriend after five years and realize that it is the best thing to do. Sure, its not been easy for me but in the end – its the best for both of us
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The most important part of this article in my opinion is probably the first few sentences.One should really think about why he wants go get this girl back.If the reasons are not pure as the author specified, then the whole thing is pointless.These are people’s lives we’re talking about here.The truth is that making someone be with us could be as influencing for this person as influencing gets.If you just want to get this person back because you just can’t imagine her with another guy, this is not a reason good enough to take these steps.Although this so called guide might not be a 100% bulletproof it does give some good advises that the wrong people could take advantage of for the wrong reasons.
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Interesting tricks to get your gf back.
Nice post Mike and Congrats for your first post.
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No contact rule: Before you take any permanent actions (like removing contact information from your phone, wiping out all those snuggly photos, purging their texts or deleting every email you’ve exchanged), give yourself a few days, even weeks, to consider if this digital history contains pieces of your life you’d like to be able to revisit one day. While emails and photos of you together may seem like just reminders of your relationship, they’re also documentation of that time of your life with or without that person.Instead of staring at them every time you check your inbox, though, do a search for all messages to and from your ex and sweep them into a folder you can hide, perhaps a sub-folder of a sub-folder. As for photos, if hiding them in a folder you don’t frequent isn’t enough to keep you from wallowing on memory lane, move them to an external hard drive or to a cloud service like Snapfish or one of the storage accounts offered by of the many of the cloud providers (Microsoft’s Windows Live SkyDrive or Google Drive, to name two). Once you have them safely archived elsewhere, delete them from your primary system so that they aren’t gone forever whilst not constantly dredging up the past.
As soon as i read the title, i was like no thanks
Seriously, why would i want to reconnect if it didn’t workout during the first time itself? We parted because nothing worked out between us and trying to workout things after a break is not my choice. Anyway, nice article 
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You’re right @Mahesh RJ, I’m absolutly thinking the same now. I tried so hard to go back with my ex than since i gave up I don’t care
A lot of time your ex girlfriend is your ex with good reason. If so, just let it be. Often times its the best, but then again if both parties agree then maybe it can work.
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completely disagree..
if you and your ex girlfriend broke up, you dont need to play hard to get in order to get her back. Sometimes you guys just need some space to breathe and then sooner or later you guys will get back together. Sometimes i can take a week, month or even a year. If it’s meant to be, it will happen.
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Are you really sure want to reconnect your Ex girlfirend? we may need to think about why we were broken before? were we really not applicable with our personality or belief? or we just got in a rage or other misunderstanding? If it was the first reason, I don’t think we need to reconnect Ex girlfirend, just let it be
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Funny, one of my ex’s just recently tried to rekindle the flame and then I stumble upon this.
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I am with the group that votes to move on. If she’s your ‘ex’ there is a reason you broke up. I know it can be hard, but there are others out there go get them!
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Nice post…although I mentioned in your other post about getting back with your ex, I’m generally not a supporter of rekindling romances that ended up in breakups the first time.
Still, you make a good point about cutting contact off for a bit. This makes the reconnection seem new, which is a very powerful phenomenon.
Good insight, thanks for sharing!
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your post is pretty and today is valentine day well i am going to try to reconnect with my dear …some misunderstanding took place between us and we separated but your ideas i am going to try that and see what happens.thanks for sharing.
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Forgiveness is the best think it is like forget and forgive …if everyone thinks like that there will be no more break ups
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The first thing you need to do is ask yourself if it is really what you want. If it’s not what is really in your heart than you probably should just move on. If it is what you want then by its true what they say, “Absence make the heart grow fonder”. Thanks,
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