Have you spent your life on a chronic diet? If you’re like me, you can look back at your life and remember the time when you first decided you were fat, and “had to” diet. Looking back at those photos I think that I wasn’t overweight, but insane! I was 126 pounds, 5’6″, and athletic. My problem was not my weight, but my mindset: I wasn’t perfect. I wasn’t good enough the way I was.
It takes some women a long time to understand the life lesson and realize that you “have a body”. You may like it, or hate it, but it is yours for the duration of this lifetime! For women, this can become a lifetime struggle, until you finally wake up and realize: You are fine the way you are, and how you look is not the most important thing in the world – except to you!
Low self-esteem got me started on the slippery slope to “diet prison”. Each time I dieted my metabolism slowed down because I was starving myself. I got angry and frustrated at my body. Here I was, sad, stressed, starving. I’d ask myself, why am I continuing to do this?? I’m not losing weight anyway, and then I’d stop the diet. And gradually my body would start to bring my weight back to where I began.
After each diet I’d gain an additional pound or so, something I call “diet punishment pounds“. Then, I’d get disgusted with my weight again, and find yet another diet plan, that promised, that THIS time would get me to my weight goal. But it never did. And I’d go through the same yo-yo process again, putting on additional punishment pounds each times.
The Definition of Insanity: When you do the same thing over and over again and expect different results.
This process has been called Yo-Yo dieting. You go down, you go up. The diet industry blames the dieter for not staying on that miserable tasteless diet for the rest of their lives, and says that’s the reason why the dieter failed. (and, why is my thin friends ate anything they wanted, but I had to eat rabbit food?) The poor dieter, who only went on the diet because of feeling lousy about themselves in the first place, is all too willing to feel guilty, and take the blame on themselves INSTEAD of the fact that diets don’t work.
It’s time that you understand, you didn’t gain the weight back because of your lack of discipline, or that you ate a cookie and “broke” your diet. You regained the weight because you have a healthy, normal body!
95% of all dieters gain back the weight within a few months to a couple of years.
Dieting actually making you GAIN weight! It took me a long time to finally realize that I was not unusual, but in that 95% who regain the weight.
The bigger the lie, the more likely it is to be believed.
Much of the “Common Wisdom” accepted as about dieting is totally false! Diet myth-information has been repeated so many times, that people take it for being the truth without questioning it. When people all you have to do to lose weight is “eat less and exercise more“ they are completely wrong! It’s actually a combination of the worst things you can do if you want to lose weight!
Why Diets Don’t Work
Your body has a natural set point that is inherited, just like your other physical characteristics. If you eat “normally” when you are hungry, and don’t use “comfort food” like a drug when you are stressed, your weight will stay within a 2-3 pound range by itself. Your body is a very sophisticated system, like a thermostat. If you eat fewer calories, your body automatically slows down your metabolism, and makes you feel lethargic. If you exercise too much, it makes you extra hungry and makes you crave carbs!
This is a healthy body’s reaction to “eat less and exercise more”! Furthermore, dieting puts your body into a stressful state, which changes your physiology and makes losing weight almost impossible! I call it a “waist of dieting”, because stress puts on belly fat!
The number one important thing to lose weight is to lose the stress. It’s been estimated that 80% of overweight is created by stress eating, and the effects of stress on your physiology. Eating because of stress provides only temporary comfort at best, and will just make you feel worse about yourself after you stop eating!
Your mindset must be transformed so that you believe you deserve to eat and enjoy your food. Nurture yourself with good food. And that means having an occasional treat! Eat mindfully, paying attention to enjoying and experiencing your food. You’ll then notice when you are full, and stop eating. Essentially, eat like a two – year old: eat what you want, when you are hungry, and stop when you’re full. But please don’t smush the food all over your face like a two year old, it’s very unattractive!
Seriously, de-stress, enjoy your life, and your weight will adjust! It’s time you stop stressing and blaming yourself for your diet not working. Focus your life on being meaningful, grateful and happy, and watch your weight adjust almost by magic: without dieting!